Hi everyone,
One of my new year's resolutions was to do a better job of keeping people updated, so here goes...
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| This picture should help you understand the theme of the month |
NANNIES

As you can tell by the subject, life in Colombia has been challenging us a bit since our return. When we moved to South America, I can't lie that one of the appeals was having full time help. The minimum wage here is about $350/month and I pay our help about twice that, but no matter what I do, it's been difficult finding the right person to fit with our family. It's no easy task to interview someone and in 20 minutes decide whether you want to live with them. Imagine doing that for your partner in life!
With nannies the interview is full of " Si senora's" and you find yourself carefully scrutinizing the body language of the person in front of you, how they coo at your children, their patience when your attention is diverted by some ungodly mess, etc. It's all a dance that ends in a cohabitational relationship or never seeing the person again. So much rides on getting this decision right, yet there is very little to help you make the right decision besides pure gut and references (who generally say nothing but niceties).
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Ayla's morning face and the general theme of the month |
When we arrived in Bogota, we had already hired a nanny via skype through the US embassy. She was lovely, but sadly she was super shy and didn't like traveling; two ingredients that just don't gel with our family. We parted amicably and even shed some tears. Onto nanny #2 who we hired and who had just finished her first day when she suddenly had to up and move back to Cartagena. Nanny #3 (Flor Maria) was hired in early November when we were desperate and nannyless. She was proactive, loving, but stern with the kids, and came with fantastic references. At this point, our girls were starting to get used to the comings and goings of women in the house. Ayla had gotten used to calling them "That lady" and I told her "Flor" was acceptable if she couldn't handle the double-barreled name.
Flor Maria was a gem at the start. Everything was done before I could think it needed to be done. The kids seemed happy and life was good. Alas, this lasted about a month and then the attitude started to creep in. Colombians prefer to work for Westerners because we treat them better in all respects. However, there is a class divide that creates what I like to call a "si senora" culture. They may curse you behind your back, but you'll never know it to your face. Flor Maria, having worked for many American families, had gotten over this complex it seemed and a few times she exclaimed her displeasure with things that were far beyond our control. Ex. We live too high on the hill, she doesn't like the stores around our neighbourhood, the parks have too many dogs. Well EXCUSE me! In addition, Ayla mentioned that
|Flor maria had scared her on one occasion. Ayla was obviously sensitive to her moodiness as well. We decided to have her take the holiday to relax, knowing that Naiya would be in daycare once we returned and her workday would be less stressful. We would reassess at the end of January.
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Bogota fire that we saw from our balcony
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When we came back, Naiya's daycare debut went well with exception to the fact that she was missing her morning naps and going to sleep by
5 pm. Flor maria was happier and cohabitation was running smoothly again. However, when I decided to pull her out of daycare and get a 2nd nanny to come and work with naiya 3 days a week, the bi polar side of Flor emerged again. This time, I gave her an ultimatum - she stay and work with us with a smile on her face or she move on. She decided to move on to our great relief (much easier than firing someone). Today is her last day and last night the tears began. It's hard to be an integral part of a family, and especially the life of 2 young girls and then just get plucked out of it. We have been able to end this well though and she will come back and spend time with the girls here and there. However, I still feel that the decision was right. I have enough drama in our house... no need to add more.
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| Daniel and Luna, the new baby of the house. |
Tomorrow, nanny #3.5 starts. Her name is Rubiela and she is a grandmother. Her energy is very different and I'm hoping that the 3rd time is a charm. In the meantime, Diana has been coming 3 times per week. She loves to talk and that she does, all day long. Naiya is starting to come out with spanish words as well now. She is much loved and very well cared for by Diana. I just have to ignore her occasional attempts at subtlety when telling me how to mother. We generally cross paths with her for the last 15 minutes of her day, which is plenty for me. Naiya and ayla love her and I'm hoping they'll love Rubiela too. One of these days, our gut has to be right, right???
TRUCKS
On another note, we've been trying to buy a car since the day that we arrived in Bogota and it's been the ultimate adventure in navigating a foreign system.With the help of our upstairs neighbour, German, we have sent several cars to his mechanic to be checked for any issues. They have all come back with strange things, such as a new roof, accidents that had been covered up, etc. Finally, we decided to go to a reputable dealer and we found a ford explorer that seemed perfect. 7 seats, 4 wheel drive for the country, full loaded, etc. We transferred the money, and had just gotten in the front seat to turn it on and drive off when the engine light glared at me with its evil eye. I told them that I didn't want to drive it away while the light was on and despite the sales man's pleas that the computer just had to be reset, I insisted that our mechanic see it once they had set it straight.
The next day I was informed that not only the timing chain had to be changed, but several other repairs had to be made. As we went back and forth, I decided to pull the embassy card and try to get our money back. I gave them a week to find a comparable car and then pulled the plug. We are due to receive our money on monday, but I'll believe it when I see it.
We remain carless and penniless for the moment!
BUGS THAT SUCK
The colds and flues that exist here take on a different form from those at home. Daniel and I have already had a serious stomach bug that plagued us most of october and various colds. It doesn't help that the germs are all soo different and we have an importer and exporter in the form of Ayla who brings back the very latest and greatest in Bacteria and viruses from her daycare on a daily basis.
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| Beautiful Ayla post sickness! |
The girls have had a series of colds and Ayla peed out of her bum for the first time the other day, surprising us all. She looked up at me with wide eyes and a glimmer of fear, which I quickly turned into fascination when I said, "Wow! you just peed out of your bum! We get to do that sometimes! Good for you!"
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What up yo?
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Then last week, a stomach flu swept through the students and teachers. I knew it was just a matter of time. Flor maria spent all of Thursday night throwing up and by friday night I knew I was in trouble. I waited for Daniel to come home and then just stumbled my way through the next 24 hours. Thankfully, it was a fairly speedy recovery. However, by Sunday, I was bed ridden again. I felt like I had taken a paddle across my back. That night, I awoke to hear Ayla coughing and then sputtering. I ran into find her caked with vomit. She looked up at me with her doughy eyes and said, "mommy, what is my stomach doing?" Having only thrown up in her infancy, she didn't understand what was going on. I tried to explain the biological process in Cinderella terms, cleaned her up, tucked her in and awaited the night I knew we had ahead of us. Within a hour, a repeat performance had us running into her room again, Daniel right into the mess. With all the confidence I could muster, I assured her that this was a normal process. By episode #3, we had smartened up and I was in her bed with a bucket in hand. We made it through the night relatively unscathed, with exception to my back which had become a mess.
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One thing you can always count on is your children to put a smile on your face. Thanks girls!!
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Unable to go to school, I stayed home in bed with ayla and we watched movies and slept. In order to get sick days here, you have to have a doctor's note, so for $12, I had a doctor come to the house to attest to the fact that I was indeed laid up. She gave me a mysterious shot that put me into such a sleep coma, half the day is a blur.
And so, we have survived another of Colombia's finest germ brew and we await the next one with anticipation.
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| Ayla and Eva pausing for a hug |
IN OTHER NEWS...
This weekend, Elaine is arriving for 5 days to see the girls and help me out while Daniel is in coffee country with the grade 6's. My mother arrives on the 19th and will be with us for a month. March is full of trips because I will be presenting at a conference in Buenos Aires for 10 days and then we head to Panama and Quito for the last week in march.
Before we know it, we will be home again!
Missing you all and sending you our love, not our germs.
Emily, Daniel, Ayla and Naiya